I'm sorry for your pain smokes.
For my birthday, I negotiated DOWN. Instead of a fancy dinner I just wanted a burger and fries. So, we went to culvers.
I got the double bacon butter burger. Burger was fantastic, bacon sucked. I got the cheese curds because crinkle fries bless'ed suck, most of the other guests got the fish dinner.
I actually gave my aunt some light razzing about that when we came back home. I said how mom always orders off the "odd menu" and my aunt realized she got the same thing as mom. (Cod Dinner)
Culvers are known for their butter burgers, cheese curds, and custard. Both of them ordered fish.
Aunt's BF got the Colby double burger and custard. I skipped the custard because I was super full.
As to the cheese curds, they're good, but they fry them with the fish. I don't care for fish, so I was only able to eat half the curds.
All that being said, a casual, VERY BASIC dinner will always trump a fancy, you have to get dressed up dinner. I had to shave my head before the dinner, and it's a little shorter than I'd like. I usually use a 9mm comb, but the mover broke it, so I'm on a 6. When I pulled the hat off, my aunt was shocked.
In high school I was a longhair, I could headbang with the best of them. a 6mm comb does not allow for a long mop.
I did the sopranos joke when I took my hat off "They took the bleachers out last week." Mom and aunt grew up in NJ, nobody got the joke.
The dinner discussion was lively, and Aunt's BF is sharp as a tack. I brought up anti-dog sentiment because there was a service dog in the dining room. Mom and aunt weren't aware of it, but he was. He's got a lovely pit, and has to be on top of such knowledge. (her name is Peewee and she is a sweetheart).
My aunt wants to buy me a new convection oven because she knows of our woes. I find it a bit embarassing. Many years ago, she promised me "The Cake" from Portal, and it hasn't happened yet.
Many years ago, a different aunt had booked a beaucoup Italian place. We'd gone there the previous year, and honestly? Not impressed. Birthday came, we're all formally dressed, which I hate, and they're just straight up closed. (There was a reservation)
My favorite burger joint, which I TRIED to get aelthric to come visit, was right behind fancy pants italia.
So, we went to Angelos. I loved Angelos. But it wasn't good enough for aunt and uncle. My grandpa, who was normally a center of calm, channeled his rank from the 1950's, and said the dinner was still going to happen.
So, we all ordered, got our bags, and walked another block to the American Legion. They LOVED Grandpa at the Legion, he spent a lot of time there. They opened the dining room for my birthday, and we all enjoyed burgers. That aunt and uncle were clearly not having a good time, but no one gave a golly. It's a fantastic memory.
Anyway, I'll take a cheap decent meal over a fancy one any day. Culvers delivered but the curds were a little fishy, and the bacon was dry.